How to control anger effectively

One tip in being able to control your anger effectively is first, to identify and determine whether or not you are too angry. There are many who feel that anger is good. While there is partial truth in that it is good to have anger, it all boils down to whether if we can manage that anger. We should also learn to know when our anger is getting out of control.
There are a number of tests that can be used to measure the level of anger you are at. Many of such tests are psychological in nature, and many of them are simple basic common sense questions which you can ask and answer yourself quite easily. The tests can also determine how prone you are to becoming angry, and it can also determine how good you are at handling it.
In many cases, if you have problems controlling your anger, it can mean that there is a good chance that you are already aware of the fact that you may have an anger problem. You are just unable to control it when it hits you. If you find that you are doing things that are out of control most of the times, it may be necessary for you to seek help.
One should first note that there are many factors in why certain people have anger issues, while others do not. For example, the same scenario may affect one person badly while the exact same scenario would not affect another completely. Many of these factors could be genetic, while others could be psychological.
Some of these signs can often be seen from an early age, especially in children who are easily irritated. Another factor that causes anger is often our environment. From an early age, many of us are taught that certain emotions, such as depression and anxiety, are acceptable, while anger is not. Therefore, many of us will grow up not knowing how to deal with anger. The first step in dealing with anger is to figure out what makes you angry in the first place. It would be the most important step towards controlling your anger.
Those of us who have anger issues will typically have certain "triggers" or "stressors" in our environment that causes us to become angry. You could liken these elements to a cigarette lighter that is placed on a fuse. If you want to control your anger, you will first need to find out what these triggers are. It is obvious that if something makes you angry, you should stay away from it. However, there will be stressors in life that we cannot easily walk away from, such as those from our jobs or in personal relationships. In these cases, you will need another method of handling it.
Learning the correct way to control your anger is important, learning the correct way to demonstrate your anger is even more critical. Many of us have lost our jobs, relationships, opportunities and much more as we are unable to control our anger, or are unable to demonstrate our anger in the correct way. We should not learn to curb our anger as it can be healthy if we can use it to our advantage. We will gain much more if we learn how to use our anger correctly.

5 ways to control your anger

We all experience anger at some stage in our lives. Maybe it's even a daily occurrence for you. Either way, you've searched for this article because you want to learn how to control your anger. The anger management techniques I'm going to share with you really do work! Like you, I'm an ordinary person who just wanted to get a handle on things and not feel angry all the time. I'm not a psychologist, I'm in fact a lawyer, and in my lifetime I've had many difficult life experiences that have generated varying degrees of anger. Now I'm focused on getting to my happy place, just like millions of my fellow human beings.
So here goes:
1. WALK AWAY: This is one of the most powerful anger management techniques, and it does work. I'd also recommend that before you walk away, you tell the other person/people that you need to leave the room to calm down and you will be back to discuss the matter calmly. In doing this, your departure is not abrupt and won't create a new cause of tension.
2. TAKE A FEW DEEP BREATHS: There must be a biological reason why this works, because it really does. In yoga and meditation, breathing is used to co-ordinate the flow of energy and create a feeling of calm. Also taking deep breaths allows you to take more oxygen in this stimulates brain activity. In other words, it helps you to think straight.
3. BE AWARE OF THE WAY YOU SPEAK: All too often when we have completed steps 1 & 2, we immediately negate the beneficial effects of those two steps by telling ourselves things like " I'm so LIVID!" or "I'm STUNNED at what s/he just said!". This type of language will keep us trapped in the web of anger. The internal language we use is so crucial in anger management, and if we deliberately choose words that are going to calm us down then the benefits will be enormous. Instead try saying "I'm proud that I left the room, because now I know things will start to calm down." Or you could try saying "This too will pass", while you take your deep breaths.
4. KNOW THAT ANGER IS A MASK: Anger does not stand alone as an emotion, and anger management techniques are only one part of the solution. Anger is often a mask for unexpressed or suppressed fear, hurt, unhappiness or pain. Ask yourself why the situation you're in has created the angry reaction? What pain are you hiding? Is there an unmet need that you are afraid to express for fear of rejection? Identify what has caused the anger and you will then be able to deal with the root of the issue.
5. SAY "THIS TOO WILL PASS": This is a powerful anger management technique and it allows you to get past the immediate anger and look forward to a happier future.
So there you have my 5 easy anger management techniques. I believe the purpose of life is to experience all of life, not to get stuck in one moment of it. We cannot pick only positive, fun experiences to have in our lives, we must take the rough with the smooth. So when the not-so-positive comes along, you'll be able to apply these 5 techniques and look forward to focussing on the good experiences. If you want to learn more about anger management then this powerful program may be just what you need!

I am Mumtaz Hussain and I believe passionately that every man, woman and child always deserves to feel fantastic about themselves.